Lately I've been having friend request from people that I went to school with. Starting from middle school all the way to High School. I haven't talked to them since then. I kind of got lost somewhere and made friends elsewhere.
I've always believed in having quality friends rather than just having any random friends. I don't want to be rude, but I don't know if I should just ignore the friend request, or just accept and delete them later. I say delete because every time I accept, it's just that, I "accept". We don't comment or chat on FB. Should I be the one to initiate a web conversation? I mean they added me, but it's not my fault if they added me. I guess I keep wanting them to make the move. My life is not interesting or anything of that sort, but I really don't want them knowing too much about my life. It's not like I'm going to back to CA and visit and become great friends with them.
Maybe I'm looking too much into it, but at the end of it all I am going to delete a certain someone.
Tuesday, December 29, 2009
The Art of Compromising!
Raul and I have been married for seven months now! Have we argued? Yes!! Have we shared many happy moments? Definitely!! Have we shared frustrations? Yes!!! We have experienced most of what comes with being married. But there is one little challenge that we have to deal with it's called compromising.
Raul and I are two very independent people. But at the same time there is a balance. I enjoy time by myself. I can go anywhere by myself and not feel awkward. I actually look forward to alone time. I always did, and I always will. It's who I am. But as we all know everything in excess is not good. :) Raul is the same way! And that is something that we respect about each other.
I can't stand going with Raul to "his" stores. Like Compu USA or any car store. It's sooo boring to me. But then Raul can't stand going to "my" stores, like Barnes and Noble. And he can't stand the whole of idea of "just looking" when we go to stores. He wants to go in and buy. He thinks it's pointless to window shop. I think it's therapeutic to "just look". LOL. After talking about how we were going to deal with that, we decided that it's OKAY if we don't do certain things together. Now it comes natural when I decide to up and go to Barnes and Noble. It's an automatic, I'll be back c ya!!! :) And the same with him!!!
The other biggy was what to watch on TV. I can only watch UFC for so long, and he can only watch crime shows for so long. So we ended up taking advantage of the black Friday sales and we bought a TV for our room. Now his place is in the living room and mine is in the bedroom. It all works. And we don't mind the visits we give each other in between commercials. LOL.
I actually respect Raul for speaking up when he doesn't want to do something. I don't want him to do something by force or because we are "married". Of course there are some things that may not be tolerable, at least in my book. Like just sitting around the house and not contributing to the cleaning or something of that sort. There I don't care what you want or don't YOU MUST HELP. :) But for the most part I'm glad he speaks up and I'm glad that we find solutions to those "little" things.
There are a lot of things that we enjoy doing together. Like movies, dancing, get togethers with the family, swimming, having loong conversations on our patio, etc. etc.. etc... BUT as I mentioned before there will always be the certain something that we both back away from. And it's OKAY to do so, as long as there is a mutual understanding. :)
To be continued....
Raul and I are two very independent people. But at the same time there is a balance. I enjoy time by myself. I can go anywhere by myself and not feel awkward. I actually look forward to alone time. I always did, and I always will. It's who I am. But as we all know everything in excess is not good. :) Raul is the same way! And that is something that we respect about each other.
I can't stand going with Raul to "his" stores. Like Compu USA or any car store. It's sooo boring to me. But then Raul can't stand going to "my" stores, like Barnes and Noble. And he can't stand the whole of idea of "just looking" when we go to stores. He wants to go in and buy. He thinks it's pointless to window shop. I think it's therapeutic to "just look". LOL. After talking about how we were going to deal with that, we decided that it's OKAY if we don't do certain things together. Now it comes natural when I decide to up and go to Barnes and Noble. It's an automatic, I'll be back c ya!!! :) And the same with him!!!
The other biggy was what to watch on TV. I can only watch UFC for so long, and he can only watch crime shows for so long. So we ended up taking advantage of the black Friday sales and we bought a TV for our room. Now his place is in the living room and mine is in the bedroom. It all works. And we don't mind the visits we give each other in between commercials. LOL.
I actually respect Raul for speaking up when he doesn't want to do something. I don't want him to do something by force or because we are "married". Of course there are some things that may not be tolerable, at least in my book. Like just sitting around the house and not contributing to the cleaning or something of that sort. There I don't care what you want or don't YOU MUST HELP. :) But for the most part I'm glad he speaks up and I'm glad that we find solutions to those "little" things.
There are a lot of things that we enjoy doing together. Like movies, dancing, get togethers with the family, swimming, having loong conversations on our patio, etc. etc.. etc... BUT as I mentioned before there will always be the certain something that we both back away from. And it's OKAY to do so, as long as there is a mutual understanding. :)
To be continued....
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