Raul and I have been married for seven months now! Have we argued? Yes!! Have we shared many happy moments? Definitely!! Have we shared frustrations? Yes!!! We have experienced most of what comes with being married. But there is one little challenge that we have to deal with it's called compromising.
Raul and I are two very independent people. But at the same time there is a balance. I enjoy time by myself. I can go anywhere by myself and not feel awkward. I actually look forward to alone time. I always did, and I always will. It's who I am. But as we all know everything in excess is not good. :) Raul is the same way! And that is something that we respect about each other.
I can't stand going with Raul to "his" stores. Like Compu USA or any car store. It's sooo boring to me. But then Raul can't stand going to "my" stores, like Barnes and Noble. And he can't stand the whole of idea of "just looking" when we go to stores. He wants to go in and buy. He thinks it's pointless to window shop. I think it's therapeutic to "just look". LOL. After talking about how we were going to deal with that, we decided that it's OKAY if we don't do certain things together. Now it comes natural when I decide to up and go to Barnes and Noble. It's an automatic, I'll be back c ya!!! :) And the same with him!!!
The other biggy was what to watch on TV. I can only watch UFC for so long, and he can only watch crime shows for so long. So we ended up taking advantage of the black Friday sales and we bought a TV for our room. Now his place is in the living room and mine is in the bedroom. It all works. And we don't mind the visits we give each other in between commercials. LOL.
I actually respect Raul for speaking up when he doesn't want to do something. I don't want him to do something by force or because we are "married". Of course there are some things that may not be tolerable, at least in my book. Like just sitting around the house and not contributing to the cleaning or something of that sort. There I don't care what you want or don't YOU MUST HELP. :) But for the most part I'm glad he speaks up and I'm glad that we find solutions to those "little" things.
There are a lot of things that we enjoy doing together. Like movies, dancing, get togethers with the family, swimming, having loong conversations on our patio, etc. etc.. etc... BUT as I mentioned before there will always be the certain something that we both back away from. And it's OKAY to do so, as long as there is a mutual understanding. :)
To be continued....
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I remember those days. My aunt always told me that the first 5 years of marriage were the hardest. I didn't think it would be true afterall I felt like I really knew Richard by then, but my aunt was right. It's really all small things and some typical mutual understandings that needed to be reached and not assumed. Compromising is a hard one, but as long as you both work at it you two will be fine :)
Wow I keep telling myself that the first year will be the hardest. But now I'll brace myself for the five years. Although we lived together for a while there are still different things to deal with. You are right compromising is hard, but so far so good. :)
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